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ELITE Vol.1, issue 34, August 2021
Vol.1, issue 34, August 2021

"family restriction"

Bilal Gamal ,fourth year, political science

From time immemorial, marriage in family homes has been a Because there must be a complete separation between the life
widespread custom, and until this time we also find that there of the family and the life of the spouses. To achieve this, he
are many cases of marriage in family homes, and despite the must reduce friction, and I do not mean by that estrangement,
preference of many families for their son and his wife to stay but I only mean that the spouses have their own lives. The
with them in the same house, this may entail many problems fourth problem: a lot of interference in fateful decisions. In
that It may often lead to divorce and separation. Here are some most cases, we find that the husband’s family controls the
of the most important problems that result from marriage in the fateful decisions taken by the spouses, such as the decision to
family home: The first problem: the lack of privacy, in most have children, educate children or even the method of raising
cases everything that goes on between the spouses of children, and we also find that the wife’s family may interfere
discussions, disagreements or others leaks very easily, and we in these decisions. Decisions should be made only by the
find that the husband’s family is fully aware of the details of spouses. The question that arises here, does marriage in the
the couple’s life, and this in turn may lead to the possibility of family home represent stability or collapse? In fact, the answer
resorting to separation between the spouses, in fact The matter to this question is relative, Not all marriages in family homes
is all the matters that go on between the spouses must be kept are doomed to failure. If the spouses can avoid all these
secrets that no one else knows about, a successful and happy problems, and if the husband’s family understands that the
life is between two parties only, there is no room for the spouses must have a measure of personal space, then marriage
intervention of a third party, whether this party is the husband’s in the family home will be a stable marriage, but if this is not
family or even the wife’s family. achieved, a large percentage may not This marriage continues
The second problem: lack of independence, in many cases we and is doomed to failure, unless the spouses adapt to the
find that the husband’s family controls the couple’s life in an situation. "A message to the families of husbands and wives as
exaggerated way, so we find them controlling the dates of entry well " In fact, husbands’ and wives families must be committed
and exit of the spouses and the dates of eating, and they also to treating both spouses as Treat them responsible people. They
control the necessity of having their son and wife with them should not interfere in their lives in any way, even in the event
every night, unaware that marriage means formation A new of disagreements between them. These interventions may
home and a new life must be independent. deepen differences not solve it, and their lives should not be
The third problem: a lot of friction, as it is said that a lot of controlled, and family restrictions should not be placed. It
friction may generate an explosion, as a lot of friction between prevents them from independence, and the spouses must be
the family of the husband and the spouses leads to the helped to create an atmosphere of independence that provides
occurrence of many problems, and most of these problems them with a calm and stable life. Just as marriage takes place
occur between the husband’s family and their daughter-in-law, between two parties, the lives of these two parties must be led
and here the husband falls into the biggest predicament, so he by the two parties themselves, with no room for the
begins to wonder if I satisfy my family Or please my wife! In intervention of a third party.
fact, this question is incorrect and may have many
consequences, and this comparison is not acceptable,

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