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Vol.1 No.25, Nov. 2020
Vol.1 No.25, Nov. 2020

Sinful Upbringing

Mohamed Elsawy

Second Level, Economics
Al-Akra'a said: I swear by Allah, I have ten childr en and I have
never kissed one of them before.
We are shocked from time to time with events published in the
The Prophet Mohamed replied: What can I do if Allah , The
newspapers and social media. Such events have their supporters
Almighty, Has taken mercy out from your heart?
and their opponents and have received attacks or sympathy
from influential persons and the public. However, such events
The guardianship of the father on his family, wife and children is
do not indicate in particular singular events taken place within a
not achieved with orders and prohibition or by usin g loud voice and
family only represented 1/24.7 Million Egyptian families. Yet,
whip but it can be achieved by affection and mercy, by forgiveness.
they indicate to a living phenomenon in society and it is time to
The father isn ’t only the source of livelihood for his family but he is
shed light on it. Here, we talk about family violence represented
also the source of mercy and sympathy – ordered to provide by
in the last times in a number of concurrent or consecutive
Allah –. A slice of bread provided by father with his kindne ss is
events ranging between escaping of children from their parents'
better than a table of food provided by him with cr uelty. The respect
houses to wrongful ways as well as committing a lot of other
of father is not represented in keeping the mouths o f children shut
crimes such as adultery, suicide and others. This is the core of
but it is represented in the smile and happiness wh en the sound of
the case without any need to mention certain examples.
father's feet are heard approaching from the door of the house and

knocking on the door! Allah recommends us only to be merciful
As soon as we hear that one of the children escapes from his
with our children. So, Don ’t mix it with disaffection, anger,
parents' house, a lot of attacking opinions or sympathetic ones
harshness and cruelty.
are provided. Neither of the two parties knows that the escape
Get closer to your children and listen to them, par ticipate them in
of such child is not his first escape as he may live all his life
their interests and engage them in your interests, mo nitor their
escaping, escaping from the cruelty and ejection of his father,
tendencies and their hobbies and support them, do n ot let them to
escaping from the scolding of his mother as if both of them
solitude of themselves and the confusion of their m inds, do not let
surrounded themselves with barbed wire that cannot be
despair overcome them, do not let them fight their l ife fights alone!
approached! and One or both of them may surround themselves
Support them with your encouragement and care. Know well that
out of the other with the same barbed wire, As the successful
there are some life problems which can only be over come with your
marriage has indications and marks appeared in the children
kindness Plant values in them. whenever they deviat e from the right
only!.
path, punish them and teach them how to get back to the right path.
Whenever they do wrong, actually they shall do wron gs, punish
We shall mention one of the stories quoted from the prophet
them one time and discuss them in such acts in anot her time, punish
biography:
them for rectifying them but not for punishing them , Be merciful
One day, Companion Al-Akra'a Ibn Habes visited the prophet
with your children Be a bridge for your children an d not an obstacle
and messenger, May The Prayers, Peace of Allah be Upon Him.
on their way, Do not build barriers and let your op inions and values
While he was sitting at the prophet Mohamed, Alhassan Ibn
be implanted in them!.
Ali, May Allah be Pleased with them, came. So, the prophet
Hundreds of studies and essays were launched about family
Mohamed welcomed, hugged and kissed him.
violence case. Yet, the majority of them were in vain and useless as
Al-Akra'a was amazed from such conduct and the sympathy and
they touch the case and do not penetrate them. most of them bring
kindness of the Prophet Mohamed So, he asked him in
us down to a lot of branched aspects for example bu t not limited to
amazement, Do you kiss children?
– The difference existing between the culture and edu cation of
The Prophet Mohamed replied: Yes, what is strange in such
parents from their children as parents desire to mak e their children
act?
inherit their initial primitive education and its si nful philosophy!
Such attitudes only justify the family violence and parental
authority. It is a wrong pretext as if its constitue nts are true, where
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are its correct results?!